21 Things I’ve Learned at 21

Hello Everyone,

So seeing as I turned 21 yesterday, I thought I would do a post that might be of interest to some of you. Although I have only been on this earth for 21 years, I’ve learnt a lot in the last few years and I thought it would be a fun idea to share those with you today! So here are the top 21 things I’ve learned during the past 21 years.

1.Don’t Spend Your Life Worrying

Life doesn’t last forever and you’re not in this world forever so why spend it worrying about things that are out of your control. I have learned that there is no point stressing about things you can’t control or change. Putting faith in God and leaving what is out of my control to Him is the best thing anyone can do. Everything will come together, just trust!

2. It’s okay to say “no”

This is one that I used to struggle with. I always hated saying no to people as I felt I was letting people down. But I put myself first for once. If I didn’t want to do something I didn’t, the society we live in makes it dangerous for young people to say no but trust me, if you don’t want to, don’t do it!

3. It’s Okay To Ask Others For Help

Whether it’s asking for help with a serious problem in life or a small problem with college or homework. It doesn’t matter, its okay to ask for advice or guidance from those close to you. You are not alone and don’t think that people will look down on you for asking as that will never happen, they will be able to help you in your struggle so be thankful they are there and ask.

4. Nothing In Life Is Certain

I’ve said this before in posts but not everything will go to plan in life and not everything will turn out as you hoped or as you expected but that’s okay, as it’s during these times that you learn and become the person you need to be. Not everything in life will be plain sailing but that’s what makes life exciting. Just because something didn’t go to plan doesn’t mean it will be bad, you will  learn more than you think from these changes.

5. Don’t Hesitate To Take Some People Out Of Your Life

Learning who is making a positive impact in life and those who are toxic and making a negative impact is so important to figure out. Sometimes it can be so difficult to see and it might even take an outsiders opinion for your eyes to be opened to the impact that person may be having in your life. I had this experience in the last year and I can’t tell you all enough how much happier my life has been! Have those around you that you love and love you back, don’t have anyone around who always puts you down or makes you feel bad.

6. Always Make An Effort With Others

Especially make an effort with your friends. Any relationship has to go both ways, whether it’s a relationship with a partner or friend. It’s so important, if its not going both ways it won’t work. If you are the only one putting in the effort then it’s their loss and it may be time to leave them behind and move on.

7. Don’t Take People For Granted

It’s easy to forget that people are so easy to lose when your life is changing or moving fast. You can’t guarantee that they will be there when you get done doing what you’re doing. So make sure you take time with those you love and care about, it’s important to show others that you are still there for them.

8.Focus On Loving Yourself More

For years I struggled with liking my body, for so long I could not have named one thing that I liked about myself and it wasn’t until I met my boyfriend that I realised how much I do put myself down for no reason. I am one of those people that never gives myself a complement, never tell myself that I’ve done well or will allow myself to feel really good about an achievement, that has changed though. After perseverance and a lot of time, I have learned to love the person that I am and the skin that I am in, it makes life so much better. I have a post that you might find helpful if you struggle too… Here! 

9.Go Out More And Have Fun

I can’t tell you enough how much you should take the opportunities of going out with friends while you have them in school and college. College has been the best experience of my life! I was someone who didn’t really think college was for me but I couldn’t have been more wrong, I have met friends for life in college and I made sure to make the most of it because before you know it, work will take over and all those fun times will be become less and less.

10.Take Time To Study

Although you should go out and have fun, it’s important if you want to do well in life to study and focus on your work for it to pay off. You might miss out on some opportunities that are thrown your way but that’s okay, missing out on little things to make a better future is never a bad thing. It’s up to you to be your own motivation when it comes to work!

11. Laugh!

Life shouldn’t be serious all the time, it’s about living and having fun along the way. Laughter cures everything so make sure you surround yourself with loved ones who bring you up and put a smile on your face!

12. Appearance Isn’t Everything

I don’t come from a background where I have to look done up to the 9s all the time so when I was growing up I always knew, there were times when I would have to dress up and look professional but also times when I could be myself and wear my grungy band tees and ripped jeans. Appearance isn’t everything and the older you get, the more you realise that it really doesn’t mean much at all. Once you are true to you, it doesn’t matter.

13. Be Weird

This was one of the biggest things I’ve learned in the last few years. I am a very weird person and I used to think it was wrong or something that I shouldn’t let other people see. My friends have shown me that there are others out there too just as mad as me and that’s what makes life fun and interesting, so just be you, no matter how quirky that is!

 14. Don’t Always Rely On Words

Sometimes it’s important to remember that words are words and just because someone says something, doesn’t mean they really mean it. It’s good to take the time to focus on peoples actions rather than the words they tell you, as the way people behave tells more than any words can.

15. Don’t Trust Everyone

This is something I’ve always stuck by. Some people can’t be trusted so it’s important to be careful who you tell things to and to make sure those you rely on are there to listen for the right reasons. Finding loyal people can be hard and we all make mistakes along the way but once you find them, keep them by your side!

16.Don’t Dwell On The Past

Sometimes we all think about things that have happened in the past, whether good or bad, but it’s important not to dwell on them, especially the bad things that happen in life. One thing I used to do a lot was struggle with letting things go. I would never hold it over them but I would find it hard to forget and just move on.

17. Put Your Friends And Family First

These are the people who are there for you no matter what, so make sure you are there for them too no matter what! You never know what can change in life so make the most of those you love.

18. Say I Love You

You can never tell someone you love them enough, nothing in life is certain so it’s important to make the most of them and tell them how you really feel. If you love them, say it!

 19. Don’t Be Scared To Apologize

I know so many people that will refuse to say sorry and especially refuse to say sorry first. Don’t be that person, everyone has pride but it’s important to move on and send that first text more make the phone call.

20. Stop Focusing On Money

Money will come and go, that is just the nature of life, but its those around you that you need to focus on more. Spend your money on experiences those memories will never go, material things don’t matter, its the experiences in life we remember.

21. Just Live Life

That’s the most important thing. Don’t dwell, love lots and laugh. Think positive and stay  strong, life isn’t always easy but always make the most of it, you never know whats around the corner.


So that’s it for todays post. I hope you all enjoyed it and found it interesting. Let me know in the comments some of the things you have learned in life. See you in my next post.

Thank you for reading,