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Relationship Experiences & Tips #1

Hello Everyone,

So today’s post is a bit different. I love chatting to you all on my Thursday posts about things that interest me, recently I’ve seen a lot of people on social media talking about relationships, from family/friends to partners so today I thought that I would do a post relating to that topic. Relationships can be a tricky thing to talk about but I thought that I would give it a go, I will probably break this post into parts but we will see how much I get through in todays post!

So relationships, where do I even start? I think every relationship you have is so important and every relationship must be worked on my everyone but today I thought I would mainly focus on friendships. I have had a lot of ups and downs and chosen the wrong friends over the years but I’ve finely found the friends that are true friends that I can completely trust.

Experience

Going through school when I was very young, I was always someone who had a lot of friends and a nice little group of best friends that I could trust. It wasn’t until I got older and changed schools that I found it so hard to make friends. I am naturally a shy person, so putting myself out there when I don’t know people is something I always find difficult, especially when I was in my early teen years.  When I was in secondary school, I ended up falling in with a group of girls that didn’t really get me. Don’t get me wrong they were nice girls but we had different personalities and wanted different things in life. I was always one to dream about a life of happiness and success when I was younger and those friends never had dreams, finishing school was as far as it went. I could never open up or trust them which is one thing that friends are there for. So it came to the point for me where I just ended up leaving them behind and moving on with my life. Although I did feel alone for a period of time, I still think it was the right thing to do, I needed time to myself to be able to focus on my life and what I wanted without others bringing me down.

When I went into college, I decided that I had had enough of being awkward and shy and it was time to step out of my comfort zone. This is something I look back on and am so thankful that I had done it. Within a week, I had met the most amazing girls that still to this day 3 years later are the girls that I love, trust and rely on whenever I need to talk to someone.

Tips

I have experienced a lot of different people in my life and I have learned who to trust and who not to. If I was to advise anyone it would be to not settle for people that don’t bring you up and make you feel like you can be the real you around them. If it doesn’t feel and you can’t be yourself, the best thing to do is to walk away and move on. It’s so hard to do and you will have a period of time were you do feel alone but honestly it is so worth it. Finding friends that are right for you is just as important as finding a partner that just gets you.

Don’t trust someone just because they tell you you can. Personally I have never been someone to tell people a lot of personal things but I know some people find it hard to not trust people but it is something that is so important, especially when you get older, figuring out who you can trust and who you need to leave behind in life is a must!

If people are bringing you down and making you feel bad for being you, let them go.. Time on this earth isn’t that long so make sure to spend it with people who you love and cherish and with people that love and cherish you back just as much!

And my last tip in todays post is to make sure that the relationship goes both ways. I have been bad for this at times in the past when I used to just leave it up to other people to contact me but its so important to get in contact with others and for the support and love to go both ways. Like in a relationship with a partner, it will never work if only one of you is doing all the work to keep the relationship going. So make sure you take time out of your busy day to get in contact with those friends who have always been there for you!

So that’s it for today’s post. Sorry if it seems a bit all over the place, I was just typing everything I thought of, let me know if you have any other tips for friendships and how to know who to trust in the comments. See you in my next post!

Thank you for reading,

Lauren,

x.

 

34 thoughts on “Relationship Experiences & Tips #1”

  1. I’m so guilty of waiting for my boyfriend to contact me first. I feel like it’s because when he does, I feel more loved? We’ve been together for almost 3 years so I don’t know why I’m still worried about that haha but your post really struck a chord with me. Thanks!
    Amanda | thebeautypanda.com

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  2. Oh my! Lovely post. Thanks for sharing your personal experience. Recently, I had to say goodbye to a few friends. They didn’t ‘get me’ And I was tired of feeling like someone else around them. This post helps me realize even more that we don’t need them to be happy. They are the ones making us unhappy!
    Thanks for sharing ☺️

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  3. I loved that you mentioned that finding good friends is as just as important as finding a partner. After college, it even gets more tough to find friends, unless you and your friends end up living in the same city as your university.

    Natalie | http://nataliesalchemy.wordpress.com

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  4. OMG. Great stuff…
    You are absolutely right about relationships are two way street. I knew this when I started to fall for a friend of mine. It’s wasn’t mutual and he moved to an foreign land to pursue higher studies and Ive had hard time moving on….. But I think I’m but I ended up blocking him on all my Social media accounts. Should I feel guilty about this as I’m the on ed who ruined our friendship by expecting too much?

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    1. I don’t think you should feel bad as emotions can run high when things like that happen and you were hurt, but if you are missing him and are ready then I would definitely reach out to him again, as a friendship with someone you were that close to is better than not having them in your life at all, when you care about them. I’m sure he will understand when you explain that you were just hurt😊 hope everything works out for you lovely💕

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      1. Yeah! But i dont think i have that kind of courage or more importantly i cant let myself go through that same conflicts in my mind. I think im done with someone who creats so much internal conflict n mess with my inner piece. I think im gonna stay away from him…
        P.S. ty for taking some time out n responding😊

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      2. Thats completely up to you, if you feel your life is better without him and if you would be happier without him in your life then thats the decision you need to make 🙂
        and no problem at all, I hope it all works out for you 🙂

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  5. Something I learned through therapy and self-growth is that you don’t have to give all trust at once… It isn’t an all-or-nothing thing. The other person can earn it bit by bit to build it up! LOVE IT!

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  6. Brilliant! I’ve done a couple of posts on relationships, they can be so challenging at times, especially when trying to stay true to yourself! we all need a reality check from time to time, especially when you come out of one! Always stay true to who you are and take the time to do it, it’s so important!

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