Body Confidence: Why Is It Still An Issue?

Social Medias Influence

Social media has ruined a lot of women’s perceptions of themselves and I will admit it has effected me over time too. You’re constantly left thinking, Why can’t I look like her, Why don’t I look like her or even wishing you could change things about yourself just to look like the girls that are all over your instagram feed. It’s a serious issue with women and even teens today. So I’m here today to make you realise how amazing you are! You don’t need to look like those girls or anyone else and you know why? Because you are YOU and that is so amazing!

I spent years hating my body and wanting to change so much about myself. Why couldn’t I have a smaller chest, a smaller waist, thinner thighs, the list goes on…. Don’t get me wrong, as women we all have our days of feeling bad or not feeling confident and that’s okay too. But hating or even disliking your body and how God created you is not okay. No woman should ever be made feel that way.

We live in a world were people are always encouraging others to change things about themselves. To always be working on improving yourself and your body but is that really self improvement? Constantly being told that you should never be satisfied with the way you are and should always be seeking new ways to improve the way you look, is that healthy? My answer is no, by no means is that healthy or in anyway good. I’m all about being healthy and making the right choices while still enjoying life but we should not be constantly trying to find the next thing to “fix” about ourselves.

Ignoring all these things. Ignoring the fact so many women have flat stomachs or crazy perky boobs and butts can be so hard when it is everywhere you look but we’ve got to! We are always being told that it’s bad to grow old. That it’s bad to get wrinkles, crow’s feet, gray hair and our skin loosing elasticity in general. So basically we are constantly being told that growing old naturally is so wrong and ugly… How did we let it slide and think it’s all okay to hear. Of course this is all just my personal opinion but when did it become so wrong to be natural and yourself in life?

We are forever left fighting our genetics, the scales, the changes we as women face in pregnancy and age, and day to day we are left fighting the reflection in the mirror. Focusing on everything you would like different but always ignoring the parts that you love or at least like about yourself.

People wonder why so many people suffer from eating disorders and depression but how can people not see why this is the case? The media is making everyone dislike everything about themselves. We are made feel like no one will like us if we are not like those girls on instagram or on tv or in magazines but guess what? That is the biggest lie you will here. We don’t need to be like those girls to love ourselves and the skin we are in. Those women are mainly photoshopped and even though they look as good as they do, a lot  of them feel insecure about themselves too and you know why, because they are always trying to search for that ” self-improvement” that you are too. They want a bigger chest, or butt or thicker thighs. It just never ends no matter how you look! We are always seeking what someone else has. But believe it or not, a lot of women would love to look like you! To have all the assets that you have and they wouldn’t believe that you felt that way about them.

And as for changing something about yourself to help men like you better. Don’t, just don’t and here’s why? Different men like different things, just like us as women we are attracted to different things in men. If we all looked the same, the world wouldn’t be the way it should. You will find someone who loves you, but before you find him, you need to love yourself or at least like the reflection you see in the mirror. Believe me I know it’s hard, I’ve struggled so much with liking the skin I’m in, never mind trying to love it.

A lot of woman if not all struggle with liking themselves and the skin they’re in. When asked they simply just say that it is just part of being a woman and growing up in this world, but should it be?… As a woman, should we all have to feel this way our entire lives? Personally I don’t think so, women should be there to help each other and empower each other to help appreciate every woman out there.

The Truth

So here is the truth… You shouldn’t dislike your body nor should you have to.  We as women have to stop the “I dislike this part and that part of my body” conversation that we all have with ourselves. We need to focus on the good to slowly begin to love the parts we have been told to hate throughout our whole lives. It’s not easy but do you want to spend the rest of your life feeling bad in your own skin and never being happy with the person you are? Maybe all we want is to feel confident, energetic and happy.

Being different is what makes you you and that is all you ever need to be, so you do you and feel amazing while doing so! Just remember that disliking your body isn’t a mandatory experience that you have to go through being a woman and you have the power to change that and forge a different path towards happiness. So why not start now, the more time you have to be happy the better!

So that’s it for today’s post, it was a little different to my usual posts but I really wanted to write it as I have been seeing so many women putting themselves and others down and I just don’t think its okay. You are amazing just the way you are and I hope that this post helped you realise that! If anyone needs someone to talk to I’m here and don’t hesitate to send me an email. See you all in my next post.

Thank you for reading,




    • laurenellenscully
      January 20, 2018 / 12:03 pm

      Awh thank you!! <3

  1. January 18, 2018 / 4:17 pm

    Wow..great post..I really liked the post…I feel strongly about being comfortable in one’s own body type and this post was just bang on

    • laurenellenscully
      January 20, 2018 / 12:04 pm

      Thank you so much! Yeah I completely agree, it’s something everyone should feel 🙂 x

  2. January 18, 2018 / 10:39 pm

    I totally agree. I think, reaching 22 years old, I can really tell how much my own body perception has changed from when I was a teenager – and thank god it did. I remember feeling so insecure about my smaller chest, what people would say, think, how it would make me less attractive. I would NEVER go bra-less, even if the dress or top I was wearing was designed for no-bra. These days, I am confident with my own body. I love the way I look, I am proud of rocking my small chest, not feeling intimidated by what others think, I think that makes me look and feel confident, which in turn, makes you feel sexy. Sexy is such a state of mind it’s not even funny. As soon as I relieved myself of the pressure of what others thought, I became immediately more attractive in my own eyes, and probably the eyes of others too as a result.
    Great post, I hope young girls can reach this point where they feel confident in their own skin too, sooner rather than later.

    • laurenellenscully
      January 20, 2018 / 12:15 pm

      I completely agree with you and its so amazing that you feel confident with your body! I hope everyone gets to this stage and feels confident and happy with themselves. Thank you so much for the comment 🙂 x

  3. January 18, 2018 / 11:07 pm

    This is so on point! Thank you for this

    • laurenellenscully
      January 20, 2018 / 12:15 pm

      Thank you so much! So glad you liked it 🙂 x

  4. shespeaksadifferentlanguage
    January 19, 2018 / 2:43 am

    Very honest, thanks for posting.

    • laurenellenscully
      January 20, 2018 / 12:16 pm

      Thank you 🙂

  5. January 19, 2018 / 8:49 am

    This was an incredible read. All so true; we buy into these false narratives.

    • laurenellenscully
      January 20, 2018 / 12:17 pm

      Thank you so much! Yeah we definitely do 🙂

    • laurenellenscully
      January 20, 2018 / 12:18 pm

      Awh thank you 🙂

  6. January 19, 2018 / 5:43 pm

    I think a lot of people need to read this! Thank you cos I know I sure did 💕

    • laurenellenscully
      January 20, 2018 / 12:32 pm

      Awh thank you! So glad you liked it <3

  7. Ellen Vandever
    January 21, 2018 / 1:14 am

    Yaaaaaaas, girl! 😛

    • laurenellenscully
      January 24, 2018 / 7:37 pm

      So glad you liked it 🙂

  8. January 27, 2018 / 4:02 pm

    Such a beautiful post! Loved it and the message behind it, everyone needs to read this post. Thank you for sharing this x

    Almira x |

    • laurenellenscully
      February 3, 2018 / 3:18 pm

      Thank you! So glad you liked it and I completely agree 🙂 x

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