So You Don’t Drink? Have You Ever Been Peer Pressured?

I do drink but there have been times in the past where I just don’t want to. I always remember when I was younger, I always said that I would never drink. I hated the way some people acted when they drank, it changes people into something they would never be sober, that was the main reason that I never wanted to drink it myself when I was younger. It wasn’t until I was 17 that the pressure began, I never felt like I needed to drink to have fun but my friends at the time thought differently. You would hear all the usual stuff of being called boring and weird if you didn’t drink and some people wouldn’t even want to be friends with you, just because you would rather stay sober? That always baffled me… But when I was 17 I decided that one or two wouldn’t hurt, as long as I didn’t drink too much, I would never have a hangover or anything else bad that happens when people drink. And I stuck to that all throughout school and college. Don’t get me wrong, I have had hangovers in the past but nothing major, I’ve never had the room spinning put it that way!

I ran a poll on Twitter very briefly to see if any of you guys had experienced peer pressure if you ever chose not to drink on a certain occasion or if you don’t drink at all, and to be honest, I wasn’t surprised at all when I seen the results come back that 100% of you had experienced it. Most people probably see it as a normal thing for someone to be picked on because they chose not to drink an alcoholic beverage. But does that make it okay,? Just because it happens so often. I remember when I was younger, I would always rather to just go home or not go to the parties at all just so I for one, didn’t have to listen to my friends go on about the fact that I wasn’t drinking and for two, because I didn’t want to spend my entire night picking them off the ground and looking after them. What fun would that have been for me? So most of the time I turned down the opportunities of getting drunk. This ended up in me removing myself from my friend group in school as they really didn’t understand it. They were not bad girls by any means but there’s just going to be some people who just don’t understand you.

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So that brings me to college. within my first year of college I very rarely drank. I went out a lot but usually only had one or two if I was drinking. It wasn’t until second and third year that I began to drink a little more. This is when the hangovers began… I still wasn’t drinking a lot maybe 3 or 4 drinks in a night but the problem was that I was doing that twice a week, every week. This may not seem like a lot to those of you that drink but for someone that never wanted to it is definitely more than I ever thought I would. I’ve come to terms that for me personally, alcohol doesn’t affect me the same way I’ve seen it affect others. It doesn’t change me into someone that I’m not and I will never let myself get drunk on a night out still. Tipsy is perfect for me!

Being in college, there were still times when I chose not to drink. Although it wasn’t as often as when I was in school but I still did choose the sober option every now and again. And I will say that although there was the question from everyone as to why I wasn’t drinking, after it was explained it was a pretty good response of ” fair enough, if you don’t want to, you don’t need to”. It was a response I wasn’t expecting after having a completely different experience in school but one that I was so happy for. I knew from the minute I met my friends in college that it was going to be a completely different experience and I was so thankful for that.

Meeting my boyfriend when I was nineteen, was another nervous time as I thought that there was a chance that he would try and pressure me into drinking when I wasn’t feeling it. What I was so surprised with was when I met him, he was the exact same as me. He wasn’t a tee totaler but only drank every now and again, whenever he really felt like it rather than doing it just for the sake of it! You’ve no idea how much pressure that took off my shoulders at the time!

So that brings me to now at 21, where I am completely comfortable to say no to a drink and even if someone has an issue with it and tries to make me feel bad or pressure me, I couldn’t care less. If you’re not going to except my decision then that’s fine but pressurizing someone, isn’t no matter what that persons reasoning may be. There are always going to be people that are baffled at the thought of someone not drinking on a night out but once you are happy that’s all that matters. Don’t ever let anyone pressure you into doing ANYTHING you don’t want to do!

So do you drink? If not have you ever been peer pressured because of that decision?

Thank you for reading,

Lauren,

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