Beginning to love yourself can be a difficult journey, one that takes us many years to even near perfect. And lets be honest, some of us might not ever perfect it, with media constantly making us feel inadequate compared to what we see.
A Little bit about me
I thought it would be good if I shared a little bit of my “story”, as some of you might relate. So to start, I was never one to feel self conscious or to care of what other people thought, when I was a young teen that is. It wasn’t until men/boys started to point out my chest or rather how big it was. I will be honest with you guys, I knew that my chest was bigger than all my friends but I never thought it was anything to feel conscious or embarrassed by. I soon came to learn that for some men, that’s all they could see in me. A nice figure and huge boobs to go with it.
As time went by, I began to see my chest as a negative, something that was wrong with me and something that stopped people for seeing the real me, the shy girl underneath.This is when the love for myself slowly started to fade and by the age of 18, I could say that I hated my boobs…
I would see all these girls online and they had flat stomachs which I didn’t quite have, small perky boobs, which I definitely didn’t have, and everyone loved to point it out too! Never was there a woman that displayed my body shape and to be honest, there still isn’t. Don’t get me wrong there are plus size women with large chests which is great but I’m not plus size, I’m a size 8, 10 at most. I just happen to have an unproportionately large chest to go with it.
It has taken me a lot of time to get to the point I am now where I finally except my body for what it is. Don’t get me wrong I still go to the gym to help create the me I want to see in the mirror but I am happy with where I’m at. At the age of 22 I can finally say that I finally believe that every person is different and those girls you see online have things they really don’t like about themselves and it could be the same thing that you love about them.
We look at ourselves and can see completely different things to what others see when they look at us. And honestly, I still think it’s so sad that we all feel so self conscious in our own skin because of the society around us or other matters.
If there is one thing I can recommend for you all to do is this. When you are home and are feeling down about yourself, look in the mirror. Forget about the world around you and just focus on you, the beautiful woman staring back. Stop looking at the things you don’t like, I know your eyes will gravitate towards that area but stop… Focus on the stuff you never focus on… The stuff you like, that you never tell yourself you like as you’re too busy focusing on all the negative things. Focus on your nice legs, your nice small waist, your lovely thick curly/wavy/straight hair, whatever it may be.
Also focus on the compliments that others give, take them in, don’t brush them under the carpet just because you don’t believe them because you will learn to believe them once you learn to accept the compliment.
Forget about the media, forget about all those girls who look perfect. I know you won’t believe me but trust me when I say they are fighting their own battles too!
Your mind will always believe everything you tell it. Feed it with faith. Feed it with truth. Feed it with love.
Share your thoughts, stories and tips below and I’ll see you all in my next post,
Thank you for reading,