So it’s the new year and with that comes reflection on the previous year or just life in general. The ups, the downs and all the changes you need or want to make this year. With the new focus on my blog, (which you can read more about here) I wanted to start off talking about friendship. I feel like this topic will resonate with a lot of you or maybe it will in the future as it’s something majority, if not all of us go through.
Regardless of being an introvert or extravert, during the course of our lives we will lose and gain friends, it’s just part of growing up I guess. Losing friends is never nice and I will cover that topic in another blog post as there’s so much I could talk about.
You may even go through periods in life where you don’t have friends or might not have the closest knit of friends and I’m here to tell you that that’s perfectly okay! There is such a stigma nowadays around friendships. We are always told that having lots of friends is something that we should aspire to have and if we don’t, it is put across like there is something wrong with you but that couldn’t be more wrong!
I thought this would be a good topic to start the year with as it’s something that some of you might be going through or thinking about, especially as the new year begins.
Growing Up and Losing Friends
Leaving school, starting college/university, leaving said college/university, moving city or even country, no matter what stage you are at in your life there are lots of changes. All of the things mentioned above play a huge factor in your frienships and how close you are to your friends. I always remember when I was growing up that there was always a pressure on who was closest to their friends or who had the most friends and always needing people to think that you were busy having fun with those friends, and to be honest, I still see that today on social media. People always find the need to make it seem like they are always busy and having fun which in all honesty, does nothing but make the people watching, feel bad that they don’t have the friends to do that with. I’m not telling people that they shouldn’t film when they are out with friends because by all means go out and have a good time. But sometimes I think people aren’t doing it spontaneously but are trying to put across a certain image, that just isn’t necessary.
Feeling Comfortable Being on Your Own
But isn’t it crazy that when we were all younger we used to think that everyone was looking at us if we went shopping alone or to the coffee shop alone. We were so afraid to be looked at as weird or a loser because we weren’t hanging out with our friends. Isn’t that mad to look back at and think about? Because frankly at the age of 22, I bloody love going around the shops on my own and having a good owle nosy. Anyone else?
Growing up I’ve realised that a big group of friends isn’t something I would ever really like to have, of close friends anyway. A close knit group is something that can be so much more beneficial to each member of that friendship group. Trust me when I say that genuine people that are trustworthy, loyal and honest are very hard to comeby nowadays.
And if you don’t have close friends, that’s perfectly fine. Get to love your own company and work on loving yourself and you will find it so much easier to intermingle with people.
Let me know your thoughts in the comments on friendships, whether you like having a big group or a close knit group or if you have anything you would like me to talk about in my next friendships post. Let me know in the comments! See you in my next post.
Thank you for reading,