So it’s the new year, and you might be thinking to yourself that this year you want to tick off so many goals that you didn’t tick off last year. Or your creating some new goals that you really want to tick off the never ending list that we all have. Or maybe you’re like me and you don’t like the whole creating new goals, that you feel you need to achieve in a certain time frame.
Telling Ourselves, We’ll Do It This Year
I feel like every year we all tell ourselves that this year, we’re going to figure out how to love ourselves. From the inside out! And every new year comes round and it seems it’s the one thing that starts on the top of our goals and by the end of the year, its sunk down to the end, where you’ve basically forgotten it was even there. So you tell yourself, no this year, I’m going to do it! So why don’t we?
The Digital Age Just Makes It Harder
In this digital age, it is harder than ever to love yourself, which is honestly such a hard thing to admit. You will find tips and tricks everywhere on how to love yourself from the inside out, but it doesn’t always help. You’ll read and read but until you’re ready to make that decision for yourself, I don’t think someone can really tell you how to love yourself. Of course we can tell you how we did it and we can tell you the best tips that other people have thought were helpful, but each of us is different and each of us doesn’t love ourselves for a different reason, so I’m not sitting here typing on my computer telling you how to love yourself or telling you why you should love yourself, but I’m here to tell you not change yourself , because you will realise the more you change yourself, you won’t actually love yourself more and that’s the hard truth…
Constantly comparing yourself in this digital age to people who just seem so perfect, makes you want to change yourself so much to have bigger or smaller boobs, to have a bigger or smaller waist, to have a bigger or smaller thighs or bum or a smaller nose or bigger lips or bigger eyes or longer lashes, it never ends!! It never ends and that’s what we have to deal with in this age that is constantly making us feel like we are not good enough, and that is why we cannot even figure out how to love ourselves because on a daily basis when we think we’re getting somewhere, we see someone or compare ourselves to someone and then we go back to wanting to change something else about ourselves. What I do know, is that we need to love ourselves and the only person that can do that is you ,there is no quick fix. I have gone through my teenage years constantly wanting to change, to make my boobs smaller to make my thighs smaller, to make my arms skinnier but you know what, at the age of 22, I can finally sit here and say, there is nothing I would change about my body.
Yes in the new year I want to continue with my fitness and I want to continue to tone my body and keep my body healthy but in no way shape or form am I saying that my body is not perfect the way that it is and is not beautiful the way that it is because it is and that is how God made me. No I do not have the perkiest boobs or the biggest bum or the smallest waist or the flattest stomach or the most of muscular body out there but who really cares because the only person that really cares is me! The only person who even notices these little things is me. The only person that notices how “imperfect” I am is me, because there is other people out there looking at me wishing they had my figure just like I do to them and no matter what, if you’re in that mentality of constantly wishing you were like someone else you’re never going to be happy! So this year, try not to put it to the bottom of your bucket list of things you want to tick off. Try to put it at the top of your goals and try every single day to look in the mirror and point out the things you like about yourself. Too often we stand in front of that mirror and could talk for hours to ourselves about all the parts we don’t like, is that really doing any good? Really? No, the answer is no. And it never will. Standing in front of that mirror every morning before you get ready and telling yourself, how beautiful you are, all the things you love/like and all the things that make you you, even if you don’t believe them right now. You will, tell yourself every morning and one day you will wake up and smile and notice all the things you love. Rather than looking at the things you don’t.
I will have so many posts on this topic about loving yourself and not changing yourself, so many different topics on self esteem, self love, self-confidence, the struggles that we have in life, and there’s so much more I have planned. I will be talking through them all and we can chat and help each other because let’s face it we are all in the same boat here, but for now I’m going to sign this one off. Hopefully it helps some of you guys, hopefully this is a New year’s “resolution” that you can take off your list come January 2020. Here’s hoping that we all do, until then I will see you next week.
Thank you for reading,